Dating After 40: Are You Enjoying the Banquet of Dating?
By R.L. Morgan My friend, world class photojournalist, author, former National Geographic photographer and Academy Award-nominated director Dewitt Jones is also an entrancing speaker. His presentations are illustrated with his riveting photos as he makes his points on creativity, leadership, vision and passion. In a presentation I heard over 15 years ago, one of his phrases still reverberates: The banquet is laid, though nobody comes.* When I recently asked about him about it, he said, I use it to refer to the banquet nature/God sets before us everyday. Yet, as he points out, we are often too stuck in whatever is in front of us to step back, look around, and see the bounty of beauty before us. A banquet often involves a buffet a display of yummy food from which we choose. We are given the opportunity to not only select known favorites, but to sample items we might not normally pick. If we try the new fare, we may come back for seconds and add it to our list of delectable delights. When women tell me they havent gathered the gumption to start dating even though they want to, I think of Dewitts line: The banquet is laid, though nobody comes. The banquet is a plethora of interesting men to be met, and among them, we hope a delectable delight or two. Ideally one who will become our all-time favorite and last a lifetime. Yet many are afraid to start, settling instead on their current lives as fulfilling as they may be even though they long for a mate to share their lives and add a dimension they feel is missing. Of course, Im not suggesting that to be single is depriving you of the banquet of life. We are using the metaphor here specific to dating. Dewitt uses the phrase in the context of enjoying the beauty of nature. Im using it to encourage those who are a trifle repadacious about tapping the terrific treats of dating. If youve decided to get back into the dating scene but havent yet made the next move, think of the banquet that awaits you. Just as at a banquet, not every dish will be to your liking. Dating allows you to taste dishes you might not have tried before. Dont turn down an invitation from someone who doesnt meet 100% of your criteria. If hes 85-90% what youre looking for, at least have coffee. Even if you arent drawn to him or visa versa you can now say, Ive tried X and it isnt to my taste. But if you dont even allow yourself to try something new, how will you know? But know that perhaps one of these tastes will result in your establishing a new preference something you may not have thought youd like. I thought Id only want someone with a certain type of job. But Ive become fond of someone who works in an industry that wouldnt have been on my desired list. So get out your plate and be willing to go through the banquet line with an attitude of openness and inquisitiveness. You never know what delicious bounty you will discover. * This loosely references Luke 14:23 from the Bible. R.L. Morgan, “The Dating Goddess,” brings you her experience from the front line of dating after 40 — having dated 73 men in 2 years after her 20-year marriage broke up. Read her insights and lessons to help you date more effectively. She’s a bestselling author, Oprah guest, and speaker. Read all of the Dating Goddess’s wisdom at Adventures in Dating After 40, http://www.DatingGoddess.com. 2006-07 RL Morgan, All rights reserved. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=R.L._Morgan http://EzineArticles.com/?Dating-After-40:-Are-You-Enjoying-the-Banquet-of-Dating?&id=462483 understanding debt consolidation uk auto loan bad credit car loan small business credit cards for people that have bad credit free yearly credit report colorado
